Hypergamy!!!!!!! What the hell??? Isn't that just another name for Gold Digging?

 hy·per·ga·my

/hīˈpərɡəmē/

noun

1. the action of marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background.

Normally I try to be motivational, focused, inspirational, etc.  I'm not talking about anyone in particular, but I have to talk about something that was introduced to me by some friends and a few guys that came by my shop.  They were talking about women that believed in "hypergamy."  Once they explained to me what it was, it just sounded like "gold digging" to me.  Is that the new thing that women believe that if they are attractive and have a nice body that they deserve money and gifts?  The internet has really messed some people up!  I used to think that my single guy friends were over exaggerating about women asking for money, expensive gifts, or wanting to go on an expensive date.  Basically, if you are not some type of "boss" or have a bunch of money, a really attractive woman won't give you the time of day.  So materialism is the new basis for a relationship?  Not if someone has the attributes of a good heart, they're ambitious, intelligent, caring, funny, motivated, etc.  They are so many other qualities that a person can have other than the size of their wallet, what they drive, what they wear, what they look like, etc.  So the internet and sites like instagram and facebook have women, and probably some men, think that what a person has or can do for them is a prerequisite for a relationship.  THAT'S CRAZY!!!!!  I'm definitely too old and thank God I'm married with no intentions of getting a divorce.  So, are more women getting their bodies done with the intent on getting more money and gifts because of their looks?  Looks do fade and if they didn't get a new hoo ha (p***y), then somebody is still getting an old hoo ha just in better packaging.  That hoo ha could be dried up and that head game could still be terrible.  Don't get me wrong, I know some women have confidence issues and get their bodies done to help with self confidence and some women have medical issues.  That I do understand and I'm definitely not talking about them.  Let's look at it another way.  There are some women that truly believe that hypergamy is the way to go, but what would happen if men decided that a woman needs to have a good personality, loyalty, virtue, ambition, frugality, kindness, be nurturing, intelligence, etc?  What would happen if men thought that a woman needs to bring something to the table other than her looks?  Are we as men that shallow that a woman can actually think that what they look like is more important than what's on the inside?  I sure hope not and the few single male friends that I have are proving me correct.  But, I can agree with my single male friends when they say that they will play with a female that seems to believe in hypergamy but never take her seriously as far as getting into an actual relationship with a woman like that.  As they say, women like that are just fun to "bust one on or in sometimes."  

I'm not judging, everyone has their own way of choosing a mate, but listening to other men talk gives a different perspective.  If it works for you, then great, I wish you the best. Everyone wants someone that they can enjoy looking at, but most men also want someone that they want to be around, someone that they actually like.  Speaking as a man and also from listening to other men, we want someone that we can trust, that we can talk to, that's intelligent, loyal to us, nurturing, virtuous, ambitious, kind, respectful, loving, and more.  Women are so much more than what we see on the outside and I have to say that I'm sorry to the women that may feel as if that is the only thing that we see.  Some of us see more than the outside.  We see the mothers, the sisters, the aunts, the grandmothers, the hard workers, the sacrifices, the tenacity, the ambition, the intelligence, the strength, the confidence, the will to succeed, the heartbreak, the loss, the love, etc.  Some of us MEN actually SEE you and RESPECT you and hope that you can SEE us and RESPECT us.  Speaking as a man for other men, we just want someone to want and love us for who we are inside.  We want to love and want someone for what's inside of them as well.  Money isn't an issue for those that make enough of it, but we don't give it out frivolously and definitely don't want to give it to someone undeserving.  Who's more deserving, a woman that looks good and spends money or a woman that also looks good and helps a man to make more money?  I'd rather have a helpmate rather than a spend mate.  Let me know what you think.  Peace.

Don't have enough time? Don't have enough money?

 

 It's amazing how you try to solve one problem and then others pop up.  It's like taking your car in for an inspection and then the mechanic says that you have an O2 sensor out or something similar.  I gave a five step plan to assassinate procrastination in my last book called "The Assassination of Procrastination. A guide towards living a healthier and wealthier life."  That was my way of overcoming my own procrastination. Here is a link to that book.  Then came the excuses as to why I shouldn't execute that plan that I had created.  It is truly crazy how our own imaginations can stop us from pursuing what we know is right and good for ourselves.  Investing is one of those things that most people want to do, but for some reason never seem to get around to it.  I hear all the time how someone will say that they do not have enough time or enough money to invest.  For some people that is just an excuse.  Some of those same people are the ones that I see out at every bar and restaurant living like there is no tomorrow.  Some of us actually do lie to ourselves that we don't have enough time or enough money necessary to do the things that may elevate our lifestyle.  So to combat that lie, I've written another book called "The Elimination of Excuses. A starting point for turning dreams into reality."  Here is a link to that book.  Just maybe, I can help someone take away their own excuses for not pursuing a dream or goal.  It's hard to change when a person has been a constant procrastinator, but not impossible.  Just remember that Every Change, Choice, Challenge, and Chance Has Opportunity.  Some people call it an energy, I call it an ECHO because it's not just there in the present, but sometimes it lingers long after a person is gone.  For every person that you meet, there is a chance that you take, a choice to make, a change to endure, and a challenge to overcome.  How you handle your ECHO and someone else's ECHO will decide your lifestyle.  

So, my wife had me watching a romantic comedy.  The name of the movie was called "Long Story, Short."  Awesome movie and (spoiler alert!!!) it was all about procrastination.  I won't talk much about the movie except that anyone that has a problem with procrastination should go an watch it and also get my book.  If you like romantic comedies, this is one that you will definitely like.  I'm actually starting to like some of the romantic comedies, even though, I'm more action/adventure/anime type of guy.  Just had to share this movie since it was such a good movie.  Let me know if you enjoyed it as well.  Ttyl.  

The start of a New Year

Is it the start of a new year or the start of a new you? Most of us start the new year with a new goal or something else that we want to accomplish. But, how many of us take it so seriously that we had already started changing our mindset beforehand so that we can begin those physical changes on day one? Physical changes are easier once the mindset has been changed. Your mindset will manifest the reality that you dream of. Your mindset will dictate how your body responds to the changes that you want to implement for the new year. Change your mindset and you can change your reality. Today is day one! You may want to make more money, lose weight, stop procrastinating, get a better job, start your own business, or a myriad of other things. You can't just say that is something that you want to do. You have to have it in your mind that you ARE going to do it. That nothing will stop you from doing it. You have to make that ambition, that goal, that want, that need a priority. This is day one, but your mindset should have been starting a change before now. There is no time to waste and covid has proven that to the many unfortunate souls that it has taken away. Covid has proven that time is precious to the family and friends of those lost to it's clutches. Change your mindset, change your reality, and hopefully change the future of generations that come after you. After every ending comes a new beginning. This is a new year, new time for change, new time for hope, and a new time for a better you. Now is not the time to procrastinate. Now is not the time to be fearful of failure. Now is not the time to be indecisive. Now is not the time to worry about other people's opinions. Now is not the time to allow perfectionism to make you stagnant. Now is not the time to be doubtful of oneself. Now is the time for progress, courage, faith, fearlessness, determination, and success. Be consistent and disciplined and success will come to you. Peace.