Hypergamy!!!!!!! What the hell??? Isn't that just another name for Gold Digging?

 hy·per·ga·my

/hīˈpərɡəmē/

noun

1. the action of marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background.

Normally I try to be motivational, focused, inspirational, etc.  I'm not talking about anyone in particular, but I have to talk about something that was introduced to me by some friends and a few guys that came by my shop.  They were talking about women that believed in "hypergamy."  Once they explained to me what it was, it just sounded like "gold digging" to me.  Is that the new thing that women believe that if they are attractive and have a nice body that they deserve money and gifts?  The internet has really messed some people up!  I used to think that my single guy friends were over exaggerating about women asking for money, expensive gifts, or wanting to go on an expensive date.  Basically, if you are not some type of "boss" or have a bunch of money, a really attractive woman won't give you the time of day.  So materialism is the new basis for a relationship?  Not if someone has the attributes of a good heart, they're ambitious, intelligent, caring, funny, motivated, etc.  They are so many other qualities that a person can have other than the size of their wallet, what they drive, what they wear, what they look like, etc.  So the internet and sites like instagram and facebook have women, and probably some men, think that what a person has or can do for them is a prerequisite for a relationship.  THAT'S CRAZY!!!!!  I'm definitely too old and thank God I'm married with no intentions of getting a divorce.  So, are more women getting their bodies done with the intent on getting more money and gifts because of their looks?  Looks do fade and if they didn't get a new hoo ha (p***y), then somebody is still getting an old hoo ha just in better packaging.  That hoo ha could be dried up and that head game could still be terrible.  Don't get me wrong, I know some women have confidence issues and get their bodies done to help with self confidence and some women have medical issues.  That I do understand and I'm definitely not talking about them.  Let's look at it another way.  There are some women that truly believe that hypergamy is the way to go, but what would happen if men decided that a woman needs to have a good personality, loyalty, virtue, ambition, frugality, kindness, be nurturing, intelligence, etc?  What would happen if men thought that a woman needs to bring something to the table other than her looks?  Are we as men that shallow that a woman can actually think that what they look like is more important than what's on the inside?  I sure hope not and the few single male friends that I have are proving me correct.  But, I can agree with my single male friends when they say that they will play with a female that seems to believe in hypergamy but never take her seriously as far as getting into an actual relationship with a woman like that.  As they say, women like that are just fun to "bust one on or in sometimes."  

I'm not judging, everyone has their own way of choosing a mate, but listening to other men talk gives a different perspective.  If it works for you, then great, I wish you the best. Everyone wants someone that they can enjoy looking at, but most men also want someone that they want to be around, someone that they actually like.  Speaking as a man and also from listening to other men, we want someone that we can trust, that we can talk to, that's intelligent, loyal to us, nurturing, virtuous, ambitious, kind, respectful, loving, and more.  Women are so much more than what we see on the outside and I have to say that I'm sorry to the women that may feel as if that is the only thing that we see.  Some of us see more than the outside.  We see the mothers, the sisters, the aunts, the grandmothers, the hard workers, the sacrifices, the tenacity, the ambition, the intelligence, the strength, the confidence, the will to succeed, the heartbreak, the loss, the love, etc.  Some of us MEN actually SEE you and RESPECT you and hope that you can SEE us and RESPECT us.  Speaking as a man for other men, we just want someone to want and love us for who we are inside.  We want to love and want someone for what's inside of them as well.  Money isn't an issue for those that make enough of it, but we don't give it out frivolously and definitely don't want to give it to someone undeserving.  Who's more deserving, a woman that looks good and spends money or a woman that also looks good and helps a man to make more money?  I'd rather have a helpmate rather than a spend mate.  Let me know what you think.  Peace.